your 5-step guide to life after death-by-chocolate

15 Feb

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It happens every year… on February 15th

Too many New Year’s Resolutions are considered ruined only 45 days after they were made… and this is just about the time when new habits are finally taking hold.

Just as you are getting used to the shift, BAM! Rose-petal romance and chocolate desserts (or some variation thereof) set you back.

The Sparkly Sunshine of January Jubilation feels like it has slipped, tarnished, and tumbled into Funky-Ass February Failure… and if that wasn’t bad enough, the dirt-cheap sale sack of red and pink foil-clad sweets doesn’t help on days 46, 47, or 48 of the year either.

How in the hell can a bit of chocolate have such a degenerative effect on our perspective of the entire rest of the year?  Don’t blame chocolate! Instead, how about you ask yourself more productive questions:

How can you get out of your own way?
How can you reconnect with your goals?
How can you rekindle the resolve you had on day one?

Here is a simple 5-step formula to get you back on track to success:

1. Refocus:
Select one goal to focus on and reaffirm it.  State what you want in the positive; so, if you want to stop doing something, replace it with starting or doing something new and beneficial.

Focus also means letting go of what is inconsistent with what you want.  Just like an old shapeless sweater (that doesn’t even look good thrown over the back of a chair), if it doesn’t fit, get rid of it.

2. Make it EASY:
Set yourself up for success.  What could you do to make it effortless?  How can you plan ahead, set things up, or get help so that tasks associated with the goal are easy to achieve?

The easier it is, the more fun it is, and the more likely you’ll keep choosing to work toward your objective.  win. Win. WIN.

3. Take a Baby Step:
Encourage yourself, like you would a small child trying something new: with gentle, loving support.  Small, doable steps help us achieve much more in the long-run.

And for those in my perfectionist clan… to achieve success, you will have to learn to live with taking imperfect action.  Better to take a step and scuff your shoe (read: learn something useful) than to conduct an inner diatribe about approaching the plan of taking the perfect strategic next step.

This SO important for new beginnings.  Low/No-cost, non-food celebrations, such as putting on a big smile, saying “I did it!”, and clapping, are highly effective reinforcement.

Once again… think small child–it STILL totally works no matter how old you get.  Acknowledging victory in small ways creates positive feelings that sustain your resolve.

5. Repeat:
Once you’ve completed a baby step associated with your intention, start again with affirming what you’ve set out to do, continue with these success-building steps and achieve more than you thought possible all year long.

Bonus Tip – Get Support:
There is no reason why you should feel like you have to do this on your own. You can reach out for help and support from your friends, family, loved ones, and more neutral people such as coaches, therapists, or wellness professionals.
[get support for your goals, NOW]

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7 Responses to “your 5-step guide to life after death-by-chocolate”

  1. Sevenn February 16, 2010 at 11:23 am #

    Thanks! This is much needed 😉

  2. dehejia February 16, 2010 at 12:31 pm #

    thanks for the reminder

  3. Sandra Mederos February 16, 2010 at 1:35 pm #

    Tazima, thank you for this. I truly needed a deep swift and compassionate reminder, and here it was this morning.
    cheers! to new beginnings indeed…
    Many blessings to you. 🙂

  4. Jane Trinidad-Hennes February 16, 2010 at 4:41 pm #


    Wow, we all need this reminder… heck, i was just eatting a piece of cake. I didn’t even find it that yummy (in the garbage it went). Yippee, thanks, I needed to get back on track.
    Hugs, Jane

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